Women are amazing, capable SUPER human beings. There is no denying that we can rule the world, if we aspire to do so.
Between the jobs, the kids, the volunteering, the cooking, cleaning, meeting with friends, spending time with our significant others there is little time if any to remember yourself and what interests, just you. In other words the importance of you.
Lately, I have been experiencing harsh reminders that I have given up so much of myself along the way that I have forgotten who I was and what I stand for. As my children get older, more independent, I have been given the opportunity to focus again on myself.
While I have been waiting on this time to come for quite awhile, I am finding that it is not at all what I expected.
The chores that my sons are now responsible for has afforded me the time to research and stay up to date on matters that used to be at the forefront of my mind and have since diminished. But catching up on these, has been a big slap in the face as to who I have become.
I wouldn’t take back the time spent raising my sons, they are amazing children and I cherish all the sleepless nights, the exorbitant amount of toys scattered around, and even the smell of expelled breast milk. But I can’t help but wonder if maybe I had gone back to work in a full time capacity sooner, would I have kept the most cherished parts of myself?
There is this on going battle Stay at Home Moms vs Working Moms, which is better. When it comes the kids, it is both. Your children will know you love them regardless of your work status. They will be excited to see you in the morning and after work. Both sides are hard, you always think the grass is greener on the other side, what I am telling you, for you, maybe it isn’t.
Have you looked in the mirror lately and realized that the past 10 years have flown by and what do you really have to show for it?
I remember when I was graduating college; I had pictured myself walking down the busy city street, with my fabulous suit, super chic looking briefcase, my Motorola Razr flip phone in my hand (yes those were the coolest phones around, no I am not ashamed that I have totes dated myself) about to walk in to the most modern high rise building and start my day at a posh marketing firm, and CRUSH it all day long. At that point in my life the possibilities were endless, I had the world by the balls and had no idea what to do with it. Flash forward 10 years, and that woman is a fleeting dream. I completely forgot her. Forgot what she stood for, forgot her favorite things to do, and most importantly her dreams to rule the world.
Whether you have children, started a career, moved to a new place, started a new relationship, ended an old one, decided to stay and take care of a loved one, or whatever your life has led you to, don’t forget who you are in the process.
The relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have.
You get up with yourself every morning, get yourself through that impossible workout, motivate yourself to get things done, and rationalize your reactions to the outside world.
It is Monday, school started a couple weeks ago, Fall is in the air (my favorite), the fam is back on a great schedule and I am ready to take on the world. Much like my 22 year old self, I have started to get my groove back. I went to spin at 5:45 am and plan to go at least two more mornings this week. I am researching all my favorite technologies, making a promise to myself to make the meals I want to eat, not stress over the dust in the house or the toys left out, making sure to see all the new movies that I love in the theater, making a conscience effort to be involved in others lives without being half invested, and hoping to positively affect someone’s life (other than my childrens’). I want to wake up a bit earlier each day, grab a cup of coffee and just be for a little. Before I rush to get ready and out the door. I need a little time each morning to be reminded of who I am, just myself.
When I started this site, it opened up a passion that had been dormant for a long time. I am happy to say I am slowly reaching that young woman I remember.
I am not interested in debating stay at home moms vs working moms, or career oriented women vs. women with an M.R.S. degree. What I am trying to convey is that no matter what road you take, do not forget the IMPORTANCE OF YOU!
What should our 2nd VBC book be?
- Scrappy Little Nobody By Anna Kendrick (67%, 2 Votes)
- It Ends With US by Colleen Hoover (33%, 1 Votes)
- The River at Night By Erica Ferencik (0%, 0 Votes)
Total Voters: 3